"Do Not Stand At My Grave And Weep" by Mary Elizabeth Frye
Do not stand at my grave and weep
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
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In Mary Elizabeth Frye’s poem, I believe the main message
she conveys is that life is not something that starts and ends, but is
something that is recycled. In other words, nothing can ever truly die. In this
poem, we see the image of a familiar scene: a loved one has passed away and
those that know him or her mourn their loss. However, the speaker tells the
mourner not to cry at the sight of the grave, for the life was never taken from
them. Instead, the life that left the speaker’s human form has been recycled to
continue to live on the earth in different forms.
I also see how Frye could want the reader to see how there
is life in everything that we come across, no matter how insignificant. Even
the light reflecting off snow (4) and the hushed sound of birds passing over (8-9)
are forms of life. I think this is important because we as humans learn that
something “lives” when we observe it move, breathe, or grow. However, all the
items listed in Frye’s poem that the speaker claims to be move, breathe, and
grow in their own way. After all, we can observe of the ‘movement’ of the “gentle
autumn rain” (6), the ‘breath’ of the “morning’s hush” (7), and the ‘growth’ of
light in the “soft stars that shine at night” (10).
Finally, I can also see how Frye may want the reader to see
how wasteful it is to want to dwell on things. The speaker advises the mourner
not to stand around at the grave to only waste time with tears, since the
speaker claims that they are not even present at the grave. Perhaps Frye wants
people to see how time would be better spent if it were used to observe all the
beautiful things in nature that are filled with life. A grave has a very
stagnant connotation compared to all the other items Frye lists—while yes,
there is stillness at a grave-site, the stillness feels more like something
inactive or inert. The other items in the poem have a feeling of motion and
animation compared to a grave. A grave even symbolizes death, and everything
the speaker tells the mourner in the poem seems to be pleading for them to
distance themselves from death. To die means a permanent “sleep” (2) to the
speaker. Thus, we should all strive to be wakeful in this infinite lifespan
that we have.